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Anna
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Hi Tee,

Thank you for your message. I will reply later more in details, I am now in London because I have to fix some stuffs for September. With the Brexit it’s getting quite complicated even for students on every levels.

I don’t know when exactly he changed and became more distant, but it appears he stopped answering your messages at some point

That’s the thing, I cut the tie but then he came back. He was seeking for my advices about some stuffs and we spent many hours talking. I mean, we may be apart but it didn’t mean that if he is in distress, I wouldn’t help him if I could, just like I would with everyone. And after, I sent him a message to cheer him because I was made aware he wasn’t feeling well. So obviously, looking at our last conversations, I wanted to check on him.

He became more distant because he completely shut down for roughly two/three weeks (until begining of May somehow). He didn’t even get out of his room, didn’t showever and barely ate. Then when he felt better, he also started to come back around me, telling me that he wanted to spend time with me and such.

You only misinterpreted the end and his behavior after the breakup. You wanted him so badly that you refused to see that he has actually moved on.

Some parts I am sure I over-interpreted but it also what his best-friend told me very recently: (on Monday actually) him still holding strong regrets for me, not being sure about the situation with me and that girl. I don’t think I wrote about it in my recent posts, because I don’t want to care anymore.

But on the other hand, I think you were hoping that he still wants to be with you, and so you wanted to stay close to him

That’s the thing, I didn’t want to doubt about him and his decision, I wanted to accept it and therefore the only way to do so would have been to completely cut the ties with him. I knew if we stayed around each other, looking at my feelings, I was going to hold onto some hopes and I told him that. I told him that we should force ourselves to stay away from each other because it would have done any good to the two of us..