Dear Arie1276:

July 9, 2022 (exactly a month since he left you): “People keep telling me it was too fast, it was only 3 months together.  Yes that may all be true… But those 3 months we were each others everything, inseparable basically”.

June 8, 2022 (the day before he left you): “He works long hours   We barely see each other.  Leaving me here home alone… I cry every day. I’m not happy to be honest. This isn’t a relationship to me.  And he seems to put me last instead of making me a priority… he tells me that I’m his love and his everything.  I’m beginning not to even believe him anymore“.

July 9, 2022: “People keep telling me it was too fast, it was only 3 months together….. he loved me enough to leave me because he felt he couldn’t provide for me and give me the life I deserve.  I will miss him forever” – you make believe that he left you not because he didn’t love you, but because he did love you so much that he had your well-being on his mind, not his. You make believe that his very act of leaving you was an act of love and therefore you will miss him forever.

This kind of make-believe is called Emotional Reasoning: you want to believe that he loves you, so you make believe that he loves you in spite of contradictory evidence.

anita