Because of the pattern of their behaviors, I am afraid that something is wrong with me when being in a relationship. But both of these relationships were dominant by them, always secret, not offering me the love I want and the attention.

I don’t want to be the girl that is over sensitive but I feel very disrespected by them.

What to do now? With my friend-lover, I am afraid of how to solve this relationship, because his sister is my best friend. Yes, she doesn’t know about us, at this point I feel like shit because I have 24, he has 26 and I have a secret lover instead of being happy and free with someone. I need to lose my feelings and be okay with him moving on with other girls, probably me being at his wedding because I wouldn’t betray his sister, my best friend, because of this. I want to tell her everything, but I know that will be a war between us.

I want to solve this in the most rational way and be cold, distant, and okay with him, but with setting boundaries and being respectful towards myself.