Dear Rammi:

“Now hind sight I see he never was ready for, or wanted, or knew his parents would not accept. One or all. Which brings me back to the questions of not knowing what is true and being led on for 2.5 years. Him never being clear about what he wants and expressing himself” –

-I think that it is possible to know these things with clarity, over time- even when dealing with a man who is unclear, flaky and dishonest- if we are willing to pay attention to everything that he communicates. The confusion happens when we close our eyes to what we don’t want to see; when we selectively see and hear what is in front of us.

For example, at one point he told you that he is “emotionally unavailable” (from the original post in this thread). Your response: “I said ok… The following weekend I asked if he wants to see me“- you said okay, as if you heard what he said, but the following week you asked the emotionally unavailable man if he wants to see you.

anita