Dear Silent Rossi:

You are very welcome.  “Regarding online dating – my impression of online chatting was that it consumes a lot of hours and leaves you just about where you started – with no human contact” –

– to chat means “to engage in casual or rambling conversation” (Merriam-Webster dictionary), and I guess that rambling casually online would lead to many unproductive hours. But if you initiate and direct meaningful conversations with people online, such that explore who you truly are, and who the others truly are, that could lead to meaningful human contacts online and in-person.

Our communication right here is not chatting for me: I am not casually rambling to you. Instead, I take my time and think of what I write and then I re-write it in the hope that it will be of some benefit to you, knowing that if it is, you may write me back.

“an average guy has to battle for a girl’s attention among hundreds of other guys. I might be wrong on this, but I think online dating isn’t a good place for anyone”-

-if online dating is a place where a guy has to battle, fight, struggle.. that would indeed be a bad place for any guy. But what if there is no battle, no struggle, only an honest intent and easy attitude about getting to know people and placing yourself out there to be known- wouldn’t that be a good place?

“I am convinced I stand a better chance talking to an alive human being face to face rather than swiping and messaging hundreds of non-descriptive profiles“- you can put together and present a descriptive profile of yourself and look for descriptive profiles of women, such that will make a conversation possible. Following a successful online exchange, you can arrange to meet women in-person for a face to face conversation.

“I am very much reluctant to step on the path of connecting with people of opposite gender“- you wrote in your original post that you had a very abusive past and therefore, you expect the worst from people. I wonder if you expect the worst from women (more than you expect from men)?

anita