Dear Emily:

“I didn’t and still don’t have a role model… I feel like I be suffering and struggling All the time. I guess I make bad decisions, and get bad results“- if you had a positive, emotionally healthy parent or role model when you were growing up, you would have gained the emotional resources it takes to make good, wise decisions.

For example, if you had a role model who modeled assertiveness (the ability to identify and voice your needs in ways that are most likely to get your needs met), you would have gained a very important emotional resource that would have made it possible for you to make good, wise decisions.

But without a role model, how were you to learn assertiveness and other skills that are so crucial to making good, wise decisions.. ?

“If I earned my diploma than that’s the last thing I remember about me” – I am not sure that I understand this sentence, can you explain it to me?

“I want an enjoyable life, like I’m excited to be on earth” – it would be nice to feel joy once in a while, more often than before, won’t it…?

anita