Dear Emma:

I forgot to add my advice: (1) Prepare- practically and emotionally-  for the possibility of separation from your husband. Although I don’t think that he will initiate a separation, at least not for long, it may be what is right for you and for your son.

(2) Suggest to him, once again, to seek individual professional help from a medical doctor and/ or from a skilled psychotherapist/ counselor. If he still refuses, suggest couple therapy- for the purpose of healing the marriage or separation.

(3) Seek psychotherapy for yourself, at least for the short term.

anita