Dear Tricia,

I am sorry you were betrayed like that by your long-term boyfriend. You say you don’t understand why it happened and he won’t talk to you. What I find curious is that he (supposedly) booked a trip with his friends for his birthday to travel to Spain, and you weren’t disturbed by it. I mean, if my boyfriend would rather travel abroad with his friends for his birthday than with me, this would disturb me and would make me question how much he actually cares about me. For you, it wasn’t a big deal. (That was no big deal at all. I just adjusted my trip to see him when he got back.)

Perhaps you didn’t ask much from him because you didn’t value yourself enough? You said he was kind and loving up until May, but maybe you didn’t really see his selfishness or lack of care for you because it was normal for you to always adapt to him and not ask much for yourself?

This is just a theory, I am not claiming I know what happened between the two of you. But you say you want to understand, and for that, I think it would make sense to dig a little deeper and take a look at the dynamic between the two. Because it might turn out that he wasn’t as kind and loving as you thought him to be? I think that understanding what happened could also help you face him (and stay strong) when you meet him next month.