Dear Addy:

You are very welcome. “Yes of course your feedback is welcome“- two feedbacks for now: (1) I addressed you as Dear Addy and you addressed me as Dear Anita, I think that it’s fine: a person is not likely to dislike being addressed the same way one chooses to address others. But if you felt uncomfortable with the word Dear, addressing me otherwise:  Hi Anita, let’s say, that’s fine too because you need to feel comfortable with how you address people and with your choice of words otherwise,

(2) your openings are very outgoing and very optimistic. Some people will like it, others will not feel anything in particular about it, and yet those of us who are significantly less outgoing and optimistic than you appear to be- will not like it. “I hope you’re having great Sunday morning“- is too optimistic for me: I am not in the habit of experiencing great mornings, nor do I expect great mornings, or great days: good is…  good enough for me.  When replying to a person’s message/ communicating with a person, pay attention to their style and somewhat adjust your outgoingness and optimism to theirs.

“About the CEN and the self-confidence, I do agree with you. Now it’s just time to heal and making it better. What are the best ways or practices for that in your opinion?“- best practices to heal from damage done while growing up emotionally neglected will have to start with identifying the neglected emotions in the child that you were (the child that’s still a big part of your brain). The private context of psychotherapy or counseling is the best place to do this kind of work. If you want to begin this work here, in communication with me (a fellow member, not a psychotherapist or a health-care professional of any kind), you are welcome to do so.

anita