Yes.  You have it right. H knew it would upset me and intentionally did not want to tell me before I got back. She told mutual friends this. I think she had good intentions… she did not want to hurt me… but it ended up hurting me more.  F also knew how I felt and did not say anything. And now the biggest issue is that all of our mutual friends are leaving me out.   F lives with mutual friends and H is my roomate.   It’s a mess all around and I feel like people are choosing her friendship over mine… Like I have to be the one to forgive when I did nothing wrong