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Dear anita
Thank you for congratulating me!
So i just had my second date with her yesterday…. As usual we talk a lot while having our dinner on that vegetarian restaurant… although when she entered my car, we kept quiet for a while… i suddenly dont know what to say…. Then after eating in that vegetarian restaurant we went to a dessert cafe, and our conversation went more smoothly there… as the place was more quiet and relaxing…. And she also said “the last time we forgot to take a pic, let’s take a pic together”… and we had a pic together….
She told me a lot about her family, and i was quite surprised that her mother was her father’s second wife…. But i dont mind it at all (i didnt told her this)…. I always thought that my family was too small, and we’re not in a good relationship with my father’s siblings… but turns our her family wasnt perfect either… i felt really calm, because if her family was like that, she can understand better on my family situation….
We talk about lots of stuffs, such as that life is a very short period amount of time…. She’s really open to me about her families…. But i havent told her about my anxiety and my family issues… but i did told her a lot about my main family (the 4 of us)….
Although we talk a lot, i didnt feel like there is a moment to flirt…. I dont really know how to flirt in real life, but i did flirt with her by texts…. But in real life i cant… we talk about everything more seriously… yes we did have a joke but its not flirty… idk how to do it… i’m not experienced….
And this sunday, there is a good movie coming out so i asked her if she wanna watch it together, then we can have dessert again… and she said yes sure…. I hope there is more progress this sunday…..
I’m running out of ideas because i can only ask her to hang out by watching movies, dessert and dinner…. Idk if she’ll get bored eventually… i’m worried…. I dont have any significant hobby…. So its hard for me to ask her to do sports together or something like that….
and also do u think i should ask her out more often, like maybe increase it into 2 times a week? I dont want other guys to snatch her because i’m not quick enough because that i’m meeting her too less….. I hope that i’m be blessing with good luck in this relationship with her….