Dear Anita,
Bom dia, Hope you’re having a good day

It will take courage on your part to carry on an irl relationship for the first time in a very long time (4 years, approximately?), and to approach a woman first, for the first time in your life.

Yeah more than 4 years actually, Also today on IG I found that my attachment Staley is
Fearful-avoidant attachment style. So I think I’ll have to work on that as well

abort the criticism. Instead of criticizing yourself, guide yourself compassionately, and provide others with compassion, instead of criticism.

Thanks, I’ll try that I think being mindful is already helping me with that

you are sure that all your anger has to do with the girls you kind-of dated, and none with your parents: no anger toward your parents, ever?

I mean it was really easy to get me worked up and irritated even for small things and on top of that I also had kind of controlling behavior and I was like I always have to have the last word about things

This makes me wonder if you felt stuck living at home with your parents, and whether this was the reason that you left home and lived away from your parents at the age of 17, I think it was… ?

Hmm? What does this have to do with commitment issues? I think I’m a free-spirited person so even if my parents would’ve forced me to stay with them I wouldn’t… I don’t know if it’s like a FOMO that If I’m committed to this, in my head I’m like I’d miss lots of other things that I want to do? I’m not sure