Dear Dan:

“I’m having trouble understanding… we were seeing one another after the separation for a while and things were going well, but then she just stopped… I feel like I did something wrong, but I know I didn’t, but…”-

-I went back to the beginning of your thread, reading your posts, trying to understand her WHY. Some of the problems in the course of the relationship: “her son aged 10 started pulling away from me… our house got smaller and smaller with her and I both working from home… my wife needed some space… I do consider myself a bit clingy, needing reassurance… Then her mom moved in with us in January… I do believe that she wasn’t getting good sleep being next to me. I do snore quite loudly”.

A couple of months after you moved out and the separation commenced (end of January 2022), you emailed her in regard to an incredible settlement on the house that you generously gave her, she asked you to come over and she ran into your arms, rekindled the relationship during about 4 weekends when her kids were at their dad’s, and the two of you were alone in the house. She told you that she loved you and didn’t want to lose you. But at the closing of the part-time reunion month, “she said she needed a bit of space” and showed no interest in rekindling the relationship ever since.

It seems to me, Dan, that her WHY is that she fell out of love with you, a reason that almost always is involved with people ending relationships. Her loving feelings awakened for a month and then… gone again and hasn’t awakened since. The process of her losing the loving feelings for you was not a one-time event, but a process with ups and downs, and the down part has been consistent for more than 6 months so far, hasn’t it?

anita