Thank you for your kind words. I’m not used to it, I have a very harsh inner critic but it never did me any good. maybe self compassion is the way to go, looking at this situation with the guy as a learning opportunity instead of a failed romance. I’m proud of the way I got through yesterday. It was the first time I have seen him at work since last friday (the day after the staff party) he came over and smile and talked a bit. It was his actual birthday, they usually give people off on their birthdays then after he came over to the café where I worked and had drinks until two of his friends arrived. Some thought it was a bit weird that he would spend his birthday at work. I wished him a happy birthday continiued with my work and when I finish my shift he was playing pool with friends I looked at him smile and said bye. Being respectful and tried to show that I wasn’t affected by his present.