@anita – Thank you for sharing your story. I feel less alone and like a monster. I have actually been through DBT once before, although I didn’t engage properly and was using weed to regulate my feelings during. So I’m hoping to start it again in around 1 month.

I have a lot of struggles. I struggle with extreme abandonment issues. Even when I say goodbye to people I get anxious I won’t see them again, that they don’t like me, that I annoyed them. Huge fear of being alone. That’s probably the toughest battle I have right now if you have any advice.

I’m doing a little better anita. I met with my ex-partner and asked he give me another chance – that I know I relied on him to “fix” my mental health and I will be going to therapy to get better as soon as I can and I’m trying to do everything I can to get better. We are speaking again now although taking things slow.

@sarah – This is very true, my drug counsellor has said the same thing also that I need to put myself first. That’s interesting about the top 3 priorities. I think – physical health, making connections with people and being more independent and self-directed. Like I said above I have an extreme fear of abandonment to the point I will sacrifice myself to be what I perceive as “accepted” but in reality no one else is not accepting me. That article is really helpful, thank you. I have struggled with Chronic fatigue previously and I know it is from chronic stress. I need to address my mental health issues which are causing the stress so the fatigue doesn’t come back. Switching off social media helps because I compare myself constantly. Meditation, breathwork and yoga helps. Painting. Nature. Music. Animals (my cat Leo). Art. Books. Films or a good TV series.  Simple pleasures like a nice cup of tea, a nice view,