Dear D:

“I almost moved to NH last month, had a lease and everything… then, on the day I was supposed to leave (the day after my Grandson’s birthday, I couldn’t do it)… The guilt (and concern) I feel stems from the following…What if my leaving makes my grandson sad?… I don’t want him to think I ‘left’… My life-long battle with depression also contributes…  I am an HSP…  I worry about possible emergencies arising and my daughter needing help …  I was raised in a very large, Italian family with more females than males. We are always helping, we get things done, and yes, we often provide advice (unsolicited most often and with good intentions)”-

– you were raised in a large Italian family where advice and help were often provided with good intentions and things got done.. but I get the feeling that something was lacking, or something was wrong: someone left you, physically or emotionally, or maybe no one was there for you the way you needed someone to be there for you. As a result, you were too often a hurt, sad little girl who needed help but didn’t get the help she needed. Maybe you see that hurt, sad little girl in your grandson and you want to help him the way you needed to be helped. You want to be there for him the way no one was there for you.

Any of this rings true?

anita