Dear Kaya:

You are welcome. A few days ago, on Oct 29, you wrote (grammatically edited just a bit): “He hurt me but it may (be) caused by my negative behavior“- imperfect behavior (ex., not being good at describing your feelings: “I could not express my feeling much“, original post),  does not justify abuse. If imperfection justified abuse, it would have been okay for every single person in the world to abuse and be abused, wouldn’t it?

“I know I should not reconcile with him“- please don’t.

“I’m thinking that contact him tomorrow night and if I can pick these up, if I still want to pick these up“- unless you are afraid for your physical safety, or you feel that you cannot go through with it emotionally, I suggest that exchange belongings as soon as possible, with minimal contact between the two of you, and outside the presence of your dog.

anita