Dear Kaya:

You are welcome. I am sorry about your work colleague’s daughter’s troubles that led to her suicide. I wish someone was there to help her when she needed help. Good to read that you are doing okay otherwise, and that you have an appointment with a new therapist tomorrow morning. In regard to your ex, good thing that you asserted yourself with him in regard to him not coming to your house (so to not awaken your dog’s longing for him), and that you were relaxed when talking to him, processing his words patiently and not jumping to conclusions.

“Asked him, Do you want me to pick up all my belongings, I asked him then he said NO. Does he want to play the game again or keep my belongings and control me?… I think I could ask him for all my belongings return but I will wait for a while“- reads to me that he is indeed controlling you in regard to your belongings: he decides if and when you get your belongings back. I wish that when you are ready, you will not ask him if he wants you to pick up your belongings, and instead, tell him: I want my belongings back.

I hope you have an easier week than last week and good to read back from you!

anita