Dear Farnaz:

“It’s all be, dirty politics“- us vs them, we the superior and justified on one side, and the others, inferior and blameworthy, on the other side: a primitive mentality, as old as humanity itself.

 “you understood my phrase right, lol“- thank you. I just googled “lol” in French, Quora says the closest would be MDR (mourir de rire).

“Don’t you find his behavior heartless?“- yes, absolutely heartless.

“I believe these people are evil“- he was evil with you. I am guessing that he sensed that you will not go belly up and submit to his dominance, so he got angry. discontented.

“I actually contacted him one last time and offered to have sex with him.. I didn’t intend to do it, just wanted for him to react… he said no, just leave me alone… he thought I’m not that easy of a target“- this is what I thought: he figured that you are not a weak, submissive woman. I am guessing his life has been so difficult, that he didn’t have the time, energy, or MOTIVATION to examine his views about women and to explore such values as True Love, Equality, and Empathy.

“And/ or he believed I’m in vulnerable position and would do anything to get him back, the latter one has higher possibility in my opinion“- It sounds to me that he was simply tired, that he thought it would be too much trouble to deal with you, being the independent thinker and gutsy woman that you are.

“After he said leave me alone, it was what I was waiting for, I said, but why how can I find an sleezy d^^^ like you anywhere else?“- I smiled as I read this. I then asked myself: should I share it that I smiled, here on this public forum? And I answered: hey, I am not the morality police (hoping that I just made a good  joke..?).

“you don’t know your dad because your mom was a w^^^^… Do I regret that? NO. I believe that was low and petty and it was the first time I used that word in someone’s face, but if someone deserves to be talked like that, it was him“- his behavior in regard to you really was heartless. How dare he be this.. heatless, it makes me feel angry at him!

“I’m honestly scared to hear your opinion about what I did? But in that moment it felt right…“- no judgment here (just like I promised): the whole thing with him was unfortunate. I wish you didn’t have that experience!

“He didn’t have the money to spend or desire to do so… he was from a very low class family, with no money at all, he was driving nice car and wore nice clothes… it wasn’t what I expected from an arrogant and prideful person like him, who is going to  be a cardiologist“-

– a heartless heart doctor.. hmm. It seems like he had a tough life and he was not into the finest things in life. By finest things in life, I am not referring to a nice car and nice clothes, but to such things as True love, Respect, Empathy, Decency, etc.

“He had no character and no money and he had some serious health issues“- no fine values= no character. If he had money, it wouldn’t have made his character finer though… His health issues are probably a part of why he didn’t bother with the finer things in life, he was too tired, too burdened with life.

“if a woman had the same issues , that would be very different.. their mentality and the mentality of women who pursue them, so sad“- if by the latter, you refer to women who accommodate men’s attitude of superiority and privilege, so to have an advantage over women who don’t.. I agree!

anita