Dear anita,

Thank you for replying me in two threads

I’m still reading your second thread attentively…

in regard to things that are unexpected and out of your control, it would be beneficial to think this way.

yes, her sister’s words and choices as well as your girlfriend’s words and choices are out of your control.

= So next week im going to join her family’s dinner again, this time with her sister and her boyfriend (future husband)…

Her sister will be back in our city this sunday…

So last week me and that girl went on a self photoshoot and we took lots of pictures together.. there are pictures of that girl hugging me from behind while im sitting, there are also pictures of me hugging her and she sits, also there are pics of both of us staring at each other while touching each other’s waist… Then her mother saw that pic and send that pic to her sister….  Her sister then asked that girl “is it official yet?” Then that girl told her we are not official yet…

Her sister told her that she’s quite surprised that both of us have hugged each other in that pic…

That girl told me that in next week’s dinner, her sister might asked me lots of question as she’s talkative….
Her sister was the one who suggested that their parents need to meet me, as i’ve been going out lots of times with that girl, and their parents need to know what type of guy am i….

I suddenly think whether im going too fast on the relationship, when we just got to know each other for 4 months…. As for the self photoshoot, we did that photoshoot after that girl met my parents… so basically i’ve meet her parents, and she also have meet my parents….

I feel like her sister is worried that her sister might be dating a “bad” type of guy… but i wanna assure that im not a bad type of guy and i wanna cherish her sister…. But because im inexperienced, i need time to adapt…. I hope she wont be very judgmental… especially on my physical appearance….

I’m confused on how i should react when her sister asked questions to me… if i act confidently she might think i’m “bad” and experienced, but if i act shy she might think i’m not suitable for her sister…. And also she’s a year younger than me, it’ll be weird if im afraid of her….

That girl also told me her sister is really scary when she gets mad, like she once get angry at her ex in the car that the people inside the house can hear her screaming….

Thinking of her sister is making me exhausted, and my brain tells me that i should just go with the flow, but i also need to have a plan so that i can have a good first impression on that dinner and also on answering her sister’s questions….

I also hope this time i can pay the bills without getting spotted… but idk how to react if her parents told me as i shouldnt be the one paying as they are the one inviting…..

it seems like you are not aware of how much of a problem overthinking is, and that not overthinking is not a problem at all. Not thinking can create problems, not overthinking  cannot create problems in the future

= But i feel this girl mostly doesnt think a lot, like she never assists me in the communication while im having dinner with her parents that time, whereas when she’s having lunch with my  parents, i helped her initiated a conversation and assist her too…. Like she cant even notice my position…. Also she never suggested which place to eat, she just follows me…

I hope she can assist me when meeting her sister later on, because i dont know her sister…. And i might need her to assist me to give a good impression….

making your relationship public will cause you to overthink about other potential dangers to the relationship. She told you earlier that she is not ready to make the relationship public, so if I was you, I would wait until she brings it up and is ready to make it happen.

= yes i feel like i’ll overthink if the relationship is being exposed in public…. But her sister has sent that pic of me and her in the self photo studio to her boyfriend and friends… so sooner or later people might know….

That girl told me she plans to show our relationship to public on my birthday next year, but she said if im not ready then she wont do it…

many of your worries, your overthinking about worst case scenarios do not come true, try to remember this when you overthink worst case scenarios.

= yes i’ll try to remember this when i imagine worst case scenarios…