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Dear Hello,
you are very welcome! It’s great news that you’ve managed to push the day of the move forward, to January 3. It’s only 2 and a half weeks away. Fantastic! The sooner you’re out of there, the better.
I also was able to get further confirmation today on even more lies and that he has in fact been unofficially labeled as suffering from narcissistic personality disorder. … I understand this disorder and have given him over two years to address his issues and look inward. Nothing has come of it other than exhausting me, bringing me down, him spending every penny I earn, and losing myself.
Unfortunately, people with narcissistic personality disorder are almost never willing to change. They don’t see themselves as having a problem – it’s always the other party, not them. The only time they go to therapy is when they are forced to (like you forced your husband to go once), but it doesn’t really do anything to them.
You thought that he was an honest person, and that if you ask him lovingly, and are honest and transparent with your own issues – that he would start opening up and realizing the truth. But unfortunately, he wasn’t interested in any of that, but only in how to keep you under his spell, so to speak. To keep manipulating you so that he gets what he wants.
You’ve tried everything, but unfortunately he was unreachable, and will probably stay like that. When he realizes he can’t win you back, he’ll probably start looking for the next victim to latch onto…
I’m so excited to move forward.
I am excited for you too! And please keep us posted on your progress!