Dear Serene Wolf

Hope you don’t mind me adding a response here as I am aware that there is already a conversation going on.

I get what you mean. Please correct me if I am wrong, bit I think you’re a kind of person that is cautious about not making any mistakes and apologies for me being quite blunt, you can be really guarded as well. That is what I think. So it can be quite hard to go through what is going on in your mind as you express little about yourself and even with journalling you’re concerned about if you’re doing what others are doing. This is not a criticism, but rather an observation that I made and I think if you let your guard down a little bit, and care less about what is the right way to do it that is the “status quo” then you might be able to more freely express yourself and it can be good for your healing process.

Also for me I would try not to fit into the traditional mould of imposter syndrome, of what people tell me that entails that would limit my perceptions of what I am going through as everyone is different. I cannot speak of what imposter syndrome means for someone else. There is no syndrome or condition that strictly defines one thing without fluidity so it can only be relevant to yourself, what you are going through instead of accepting what you think is an acceptable explanation of who you are.

Sorry if I have sounded a bit too critical. This is only the way I am and I would actually prefer someone say straight to my face what they think of me that could help me to sort things out (of course I wouldn’t like it if they have any ulterior motives that would put me in a disadvantaged position). But for me personally I can take serious constructive feedback so I hope you don’t mind.

Also whether psychotherapy works for you depends on who you are seeing, and whether the strategies that they are using are good for you. It can be expensive. For me I don’t really rely too much on verbal feedback though it is valuable. I rely more on talking about things (I need a good listener), I think aloud, so once I can get everything out of my mouth then I can work out how to solve the problems. So in my case a counsellor is more beneficial. Don’t know about you, but you do what is best for you.