Dear SereneWolf,

thanks for the tip, I’ll inquire about the Crizal lenses.

Good to hear your therapist is a licensed one and has 5 year experience. And yes, working from the ground up, from the root chakra makes sense. And yes, humming can be useful for the thyroid gland, so that’s a good exercise too. But like you said, best if you have your thyroid checked (ultrasound plus bloodwork). If you need hormone supplementation, there’s medicine for that and can be regulated pretty easily.

As for surrendering, you said: I mean I said for my controlling behaviour and that I’m being hard on myself

You did say earlier that you tend to get angry when someone says No to you:

And for anger
I found out that there is still some level of controlling behavior
Because of someone says No I can’t directly accept it. It really opened my eyes that it’s just my expatiations towards them.

Does this happen at work? Or in your private life?

Yes It’s my last semester. After that I want to apply for a MBA because I found out that lot of management positions does require MBA so..

Cool! Yes, a lot of management position require MBA, so I guess you’ll have even greater chances, i.e. a wider range of opportunities, with an MBA degree.

I’ve just watched that video and two another about parents.
I agree with him and also that dependency is not there so why let control? And the need for approval

Right… the problem is that even though we are adults, there’s the still the inner child in us. And it’s the inner child that would do anything to get his parents’ love and approval. That’s why parents have such an influence (often a negative one) on us. But once we re-parent our inner child, this influence lessens and we’re much less affected by our parents’ expectations… and can really be adults. As Henry Cloud said, we can honor our parents, but not allow them to control our lives.

I have to work with cross functional teams. So there are different managers for different teams but yeah this one is a good fella.

Good, at least one good fella 🙂 How is it with others? Is there a specific person that is hard to work with, and you’re struggling to say No to him, or assert yourself?

It was really good even though I’m still not that much good at presenting and storytelling. But they listened carefully. I’ve also talked about anonymous feedback and PR manager said they’ll start working on this documentations… So I hope to see what good changes it brings

Excellent! You’re really quick in trying out new things and taking action – that’s admirable! I also hope it will bring positive changes and improve the overall work climate and employees satisfaction.

Even though I don’t have much power in my hands rn but I do feel like there is lot things I can do where I can make a good impact.

You do have some power as manager… so yes, you can make a positive impact. So just keep doing the great work that you’ve started!

Thank you for your advice on becoming a freelancer. I’ve already implemented some of that, such as social media presence, a couple of years ago. But then the pandemic came and I got too worried about health, and it just paralyzed me. So now I need to start again, get active again…. and this is my plan for 2023.

Thanks for all the great advice, specially what you said: don’t over research! Because I do tend to study everything in advance, taking way too much time on that, while procrastinating to take action. So this is one big thing that needs to change…