Dear Hello,

how have you been?

I’ve been watching some videos about narcissism and came across a great one, by a clinical psychologist Dr. Ramani. She talks about another manipulative technique narcissists use when they want to win the person back: hoovering. They “hoover” you, i.e. suck you back into the relationship by telling you how precious you are and that they’ve finally realized it, and to give them another chance. It’s kind of a love bombing, only after the relationship is over.

Your husband might try that too, so I just thought to warn you.

The video is on youtube, it’s titled “What it’s like to break up with a narcissist“, and the publisher is MedCircle. If you enter the search phrase “what it’s like to break up with a narcissist medcircle”, it will show up first in the list of results.