Hi Anita.
Happy New Year!

Well so far this year has not been a pleasant one. My son ended up I the hospital but is doing well now.  He lives with his dad and brother.  They are both older and in college.
Anyways that isn’t the reason why I am writing.
My husband decided to work out at the gym again because he is an ex MMA fighter and has put on about 20 pounds.  He either goes in the morning for 3 hours or will go in the evening for 3 hours and sometimes he will go to work after his evening workout.   He is a Uber driver.  I now know not see him if I’m lucky for a few mins in the morning or an hour or 2 in the evening or sometimes I’m asleep by the time he comes home cause he works late at times.   I am feeling like he isnt spending enough time with me.  I feel like I’m being pushed aside .    And when I’m on the phone with him, if his friends call he will tell me he will call me back.  Shouldn’t I come first before his friends?   I am beginning to feel so alone in our marriage .  When I asked him what he does at the gym. He says he runs for an hour, does weights and goes into the jacuzzi for 20 mins and then showers and leaves.  But 3-4 hours at a gym?????????? I work full time, come home , clean up after him cause he’s messy, cook dinner i which he doesn’t even eat because he says he does not want to feel full before he hours back out to work or goes to bed.   I do all the laundry , grocery shopping.  He spends little time with me on weekends too cause that’s when he makes the most money.  I can’t visit friends or family often cause I’m an hour away from them. So I basically sit at home and sometimes I just get so down that I cry.    He can tell I haven’t been myself lately.  And all I tell him is that I’m ok but actually I’m not ok.