Dear Katrine,

Yeah I think so too. He’s only hanging out with girls from work never the boys, or even just a mix. First it was X and Y and the partying (that he keeps saying that he will stop with) now it’s the young girls and drinking. I can see the weirdness and anxiety in him goes away and he’s confident.

Oh I didn’t know that he’s hanging out only with girls. Yeah, in that case it does seem like he needs female company to boost his ego. Almost like he needs to be liked and desired by girls to feel good about himself (you said that being in female company makes him self-confident and less anxious). That’s why he is probably flirting a lot – because he needs all that attention and interest from girls.

And with you, it seems that even if he doesn’t want to date you, he still has the need to “keep you interested” by playing those games. Now that I think about it, it could be that he is sending you strange vibes not because he has feelings for you and is conflicted, but because he has the need to keep the woman interested, even if he is not interested in her. Because that gives a boost to his ego. I am sorry if it hurts you to hear this, and I am not even sure if it’s true, but based on everything you’ve shared about him so far, it seems quite likely to me, unfortunately.

It’s stille not easy to see, but I have been reacting eay less than before. I don’t know if he’s still going to travel abroad or if he’s changed his mind. Hope he does leave cuz it’s hard to move on from something that you are constanly confronted with.

I am glad you’re less and less reactive to him! And that even if he stays, he won’t be such a challenge for you in the future.

The day we went to the gallery I got a bit nervous around, not knowing what to say. It felt a bit date like and a very good day.

Did you have butterflies in your stomach? Because if so, it’s a good sign for you, isn’t it?

Today I was supposed to see him at work but he left shortly after saying he’s not sure he will come back to work here again because of the head chef. He said he needs some rest and time to think which I completely understand and he knows I am here when he’s ready to talk about it.

So the head chef still hasn’t been fired? I am sorry your guy is feeling bad about it. No wonder he is considering leaving if nothing changes. But if he decides to leave his job, I hope you two will still stay in touch!