Dear Freddie,

you’re very welcome.

She even said once that I’d never asked about Ava during our relationship which was none sense because I’d tried to get her open up numerous times before.

Yeah that’s strange that she blamed you for not inquiring, and then when you did, she refused to talk about it. Also, you said it was your idea to take her daughter out several times in the past, but after a few occasions that fizzled out, and she blamed it either on her daughter (that she’s not interested) or on her parents (that they don’t allow it). BTW did you ask her at that time why her parents were objecting?

In any case, it seems pretty clear that she wasn’t too eager to meet her daughter, but then she blamed you, using “attack is the best form of defense” strategy. Shifting the blame on you.

She has always said she wanted to work on our problems but I fear this will always be an area she doesn’t want to confront

Yeah, this seems like something she doesn’t want to address, and it’s pretty major. She cannot really claim that she is willing to work on your problems, when she is refusing to address this super important issue. She is fooling herself, or at least fooling you.

I have always been a more negative mindset kind of person and I have always looked for faults and flaws In the relationship and life in general, rather than focusing on the good

Well it seems that in this case you were right not to focus only on the good stuff, but also to want to clarify the murky stuff, instead of sticking your head in the sand…. If you want to talk more about having a negative mindset (or perhaps it was the circumstances that lead you to be cautious with people?), you’re welcome…