Dear Freddie,

yeah any help with my negative mindset will help, I am naturally cautious of people and find it hard to trust

Sometimes I feel I’m choosing to not trust what she tells me and it’s my issue

I wonder if there were circumstances in your childhood and upbringing (or perhaps later in life?) that led you to become cautious of people and hard to trust? Because none of us is born non-trusting, but it is what happens to us that shapes us… So any ideas what it might be?

I am sorry you’re feeling down at the moment and very conflicted. I hope you’ll get some clarity and some relief soon enough… And you’re right, try not to reach out to her for the wrong reasons, because it wouldn’t really solve the problem on the long-run, and you’re talking about the long-run stuff here, like marriage and having kids. And it’s not something to take lightly…