Dear Tee,

Thank you 💝

It’s beautifully written and I can feel your warm energy.

It isn’t easy to accept many things in my life.

I find it difficult to clear my mind to decide on what to do next.

I live in a very small town where most of the people are already married, retired or interested only in casual relationships. It is why I feel that I won’t have a new chance any time soon.

This man seems to be honest with his intentions but not yet ready emotionally to move on. I’ve met some men before pretending to want a relationship when in fact they just wanted to have fun or use me for another things (eg. looking after kids, language lessons, cooking etc.)

To answer your question, yes, it would be helpful if we could discuss the ways how to brake the patterns, set the boundaries, and love myself more. Tee, what are the simplest and healthiest ways to do that?

Also, if I really wanted to get this man out of his shell, what would you suggest?

My friend adviced me to call him and say that I want that we both compromise (if we want to keep seeing eachother). She said that she can think of 3 suggestions:

1. Tell him that I want to show him my favourite place for walks or taking a drink (near my appartement) and would like that he takes me there and after we can go to his place but no sex

2. To invite him to my place for a short tea time and then trying to get him in public near my place

3. To accept his invitation to his place (before 9.30 pm) and saying upfront that there will be no sex. If he refuses, there is no point to keep on trying.

She can’t think of any other suggestions right now. I feel that it could work and if he doesn’t accept any of these options, I will be sure to move on. I will tell him that I do not want a casual sex and that he can call me when he is ready to invite me in public.

Tee, which of these suggestions would you advice to use? Personally, I do not feel like inviting him over is good at this stage but maybe I’m wrong.

I really need to try one more time even if it sounds desperate.

Big thanks in advance! 🌼

I’m grateful for people like you.

I do not know much about your personal life but I hope your life is treating you well.

Looking forward to your next message.

Kind regards,

Dafne