Dear Katrine,

I am really sorry about that. Does it mean his company changed their plans and are not opening properties in London or delaying the whole project?

I can’t believe this is happening. He broke his promise to me.

I understand your disappointment. But wasn’t his coming to London dependent on whether the company needs him there or not? It seems he is on a pretty tight leash there and doesn’t have time to swing by London before going to Portugal.

He kept promesing me that he would tell me if things changed, but he never did

Do you think it means he doesn’t care about you? Or it’s just that he is unable to ask for anything for himself and just does what the company dictates?

I’m so confused. I don’t what i do to deserve this

You haven’t done anything wrong! It’s the circumstances that are doing this…  The way I see it, the main question is whether he still cares about you and is interested in a relationship with you. If his feelings haven’t changed, then you can talk about things and see what your options are.

Are you still going to Portugal for his birthday? I wouldn’t cancel it, if his feelings haven’t changed and he wants to see you. But if he is indifferent or insecure, that’s another story. I hope his feelings haven’t changed, but just that his priority at this point is to secure the job with this company.

I think the key at this point is: 1) how he feels about you and 2) whether he is willing to do the minimum to spend some time with you. If he isn’t willing to invest even a day or two to be with you in Portugal, it would mean you’re not that important to him. But if he is keen to see you and can ensure 2 days off, that would show that he cares and that he is willing to “fight” for you,  i.e. ask for 2 days off in spite of his fear of what the company might say.