One of the things that really stuck with me is how she said we are morally different. For example Her morals would be to drop everything to be there for me. Yet she wasn’t. She claimed it was bare minimum because she wants me and needs me and that I should also want to be there for her. This was said during our last and worst argument. She didn’t want to say she needed me because she knew she didn’t. However I think asking your partner for help and saying some to big a long the lines of “I know you want to stay home but I really need you here tonight” is not too much to ask for, if things like this were said and made clear I would’ve been more present I think for her

For me the bare minimum I expected was contact. She was a really bad texted etc and would obviously ghost me at times which was manipulation and controlling. I would be at work all day and I rarely got a message while she was home doing nothing. Another bare minimum for me was fighting for what you want and she never did that. The fact that it was always me fighting, writing poems, letters, offering comfort and never receiving any from her should’ve been my wake up call and it almost is now. I deserve someone who would’ve done the same for me as I did for them.