Hi Helcat

Thank you for putting forward an alternate thought, you are completely right. It takes time to accept the way people are, especially if they are polar opposite to values that you believe in.

“Are there any specific thoughts or feelings that come up when people don’t meet your principles?”

I am always engrossed in planning things to mitigate the effects of being late , house being cluttered etc… This has taken a toll on me, I feel I am always in fire-fighting mode. I feel am under tremendous stress to make things aligned to my values. As you rightly hinted, I feel  I am being taken for granted. ” Self Soothing” is something that is new to me, I think i should read more about that.