Dear Ocean:

You are welcome. I will need more time to thoroughly read your 2nd post, therefore, I’ll be back to you Fri morning (it is Thurs 12:41 pm here).

In regard to this part of your recent post: “I tend to get frustrated and upset and in turn, when I am expressing that, it comes out harshly…  his family is… laid back, go with the flow type. Often times I think about how my family and his family will mesh. One of my thoughts is that, will they get along? Will they be close? I come from a family of hustlers – where they work extremely hard and ambition is very much a factor in each and every one of us in my family. Him on the other hand, it seems like his family is very comfortable with where they are at. They do not strive to be better or do better – if anything, change scares them“-

– I sense that you are angry with him and perhaps envious of him (and his family) for having had a laid back life, while you and your parents didn’t have that kind of luxury, a life you wish or wished you had… Any truth to this?

I wonder if you feel that you’d betray your parents if you choose a partner who does not at all follow their philosophy and practice of life: the perhaps restless striving to be and do better (financially,  educationally..?)

If you would like to respond to what I brought up here, please do, and I will thoroughly reply to all that you share in the morning.

anita