Hi Anita, thank you for your response.

“I sense that you are angry with him and perhaps envious of him (and his family) for having had a laid back life, while you and your parents didn’t have that kind of luxury, a life you wish or wished you had… Any truth to this?”

No there is no truth to this. If anything, I wish his parents was more like my parents. I feel like his parents are very much comfortable with their current standard of life. I don’t think they’d want to change anything about it or better themselves.

“I wonder if you feel that you’d betray your parents if you choose a partner who does not at all follow their philosophy and practice of life: the perhaps restless striving to be and do better (financially,  educationally..?)”

I know I shared that my biggest concern was our families meshing, but I feel like my parents will be happy with whomever I choose to build a life with. If there were any problems or issues that were alarming about the individual, my parents would definitely have a conversation with me, but I do not think they would feel betrayed and I would not feel like I betrayed them. At the end of the day, I feel like all parents should want to see their kids happy so I know my parents would do that for me. I have a good and confident feeling that my parents would love him but it’s really the families meshing that I worry about a lot.