Dear antarkala:

You are welcome and thank you for your empathy and support!!!

“Even with friends, I am always trying to take care of them and be the bigger person. I’m seriously tired but I feel like I don’t know how else to be – I don’t know how to just have fun and be like all other girls!“-

-it will be difficult and it will likely feel strange to change a (so far) lifetime role of being “the bigger person“, the overly responsible adult one to => => => a new role: still responsible, but not overly responsible, with an added a carefree mindset.

This kind of change can be done if you understand the gradual nature of such change, it you are very patient with the process, taking it one step, one day at a time, and over a long time (months) the new mindset and behavior will start to feel natural.

The process: engage in activities that relax you or bring you joy (self-care), practice Mindfulness every day; set and communicate boundaries with people (say no to some requests), delegate responsibilities to others and encourage them to take on tasks that they can handle..

And all done gradually, in small steps, as you congratulate yourself and celebrate small progress made, day in and day out.

anita