Dear John:

“Does anyone have any advice on how to practice patience when it comes to a relationship that is paused?“-

– (1)  If you don’t have one, create a daily routine for yourself/a structure to your day (all your waking hours), so you know what you’re supposed to be doing at any one time (resting should be part of the routine),

(2) Part of your daily routine can be, if it suits you, writing/ typing on Word “letters to (her name)” where you tell her about what you are thinking and feeling. Do this while listening to music, if it helps you to express yourself,

(3) Every time you feel like contacting her, thinking about how to do it, what to say to her.. don’t. Instead, do # 2 above.

You wrote “some things were said“- terrible things?

anita