Hi Paradoxy,

isn’t admitting the mistake similar to taking responsibility for the mistake?

No, it’s like saying “Yes, I robbed the bank, but you made me do it.”

She is blaming you for sleeping with other men, basically.

She is abusing you and then blaming you for the abuse. It is called victim blaming.

If that obliviousness is actually fake, then that girl deserves an oscar for her performance cause that is how convincing it is.

Maybe she should be an actress. And second, if you want to be with someone so “oblivious” and “stupid” (this level of stupidity makes me wonder whether she is actually 24 or actually 5), then go ahead. I don’t want to keep trying to dissuade you, if that’s what you really want.

I just can’t imagine any other girl caring for me the same way B cared for me. Like which girl would help dealing with dandrives in someone’s hair?

Well, that’s nice of her to try to help. But you should know that when two people get married, they vow to be there for each other in sickness and in health. It is normal to care for one’s partner if they are sick. However it’s not normal to lie to them and cheat on them.

But today she has taken full responsibility for her actions and promised to not bother me anymore but claims to have trust in God that I will come back to her….

So she and I have come to the agreement that we are now broken up and we will no longer talk about the relationship but she is welcome to ask for my help for her work or whenever she needs it.

Good that you decided to stop going back and forth on it. You said she has finally taken full responsibility for her actions – what exactly did she say?

My attraction for her has nothing to do with her stubbornness. I definitely do not want someone who is too high on their horse to acknowledge what is right and what is wrong. Yes I want someone who understands me but I definitely do not want someone who literally drains all the energy out of me before they finally understand me.

But you keep trying to make her understand. For more than a year now, with no success. Until all your energy was drained. And you still want to give her another chance. It seems you really want this stubborn (“oblivious”, according to you) girl to finally listen to you.

You said something similar about your father: you said he was incapable of understanding your feelings (he is INCAPABLE OF UNDERSTANDING). She too seems incapable of understanding. So I see a pretty big similarity there.

I’ve seen how these girls behave, literally no respect for their partners. These girls make B look like she is a perfect angel from heaven

How are these other girls worse than B? Because I have a hard time imagining bigger disrespect than cheating on you and then blaming you for it.

Besides, the girls who are actually worth it, won’t even give me a chance. So I am just stuck with my fate.

Based on what you said about your online encounters with girls, between ages 15 and 17, you did have some success, but it was either your parents or the girl’s parents who put an end to your online romance. But you concluded – incorrectly – that none of those girls were interested in you. So I am guessing it’s not true now either – that none of the normal, decent girls (which can be found, I guarantee you!) would be interested in you.