Hi Cosmo

Well if you don’t want to do open relationships, then it might be worth reaching out to a therapist again to help you manage this behaviour because it sounds like an appropriate solution hasn’t been found.

Do you understand why cheating hurts people?

When you do it, you disrespect and hurt your partner.

You disrespected and hurt your partner repeatedly and expected forgiveness each time without regard or care for her. There is a level of entitlement there. People are not doormats and treating them poorly is one way to lose them forever.

Some people are attracted to others outside of the relationship, but they consider their partners feelings and don’t stray. A simple act of self control, care and respect.

All it takes to not cheat, is to not cheat. Practice self control, care and respect for people. When you feel that your immediate gratification isn’t more important than your partner then you will find it relatively easy to not cheat.