Dear Blueman:

I hope that you will feel better soon.

“At one point I got obsessed with this person. I think I experienced Limerence… Once we dated my intense anxiety and negative thinking caught me up and destroyed our connection“- anxiety, negative thinking and obsession do destroy.

“Finally, it ended in 1.5 months. Ruined it all with my own hands My partner trusted in me yet I failed her… The guilt is so overwhelming… Everyone has been telling me I am being too hard on myself but am I?“- since the short, 1.5 month relationship ended, you’ve been obsessing about having failed your now ex-girlfriend, and you fee guilty about it.. obsessed with guilt.

I’d approach this particular obsession on two fronts:

(1) your childhood history of feeling responsible for failing someone.. one of your parents, perhaps?

(2) the short history with your girlfriend: in what ways, in actual terms, do you think you have failed or hurt her, in only 1.5 months?

anita