Dear Dave:

Good to read your update, 4 months and 20 days since you last posted! You’ve been separated for nearly a year, “Every day seems a little more simple and I feel happier“- the separation has been good for you!

“I run now about 40-70km a week which I have never done“- fast walking is way easier on the knees and has all the aerobic exercise benefits of running. Did you ever consider it.. or is it considered .. unmanly to walk vs to run?

“I wanted to ask also, between my Ex and I we own two houses – 1 larger family home, (ex lives) and a smaller property… my current home…  tiny) for nearly 11 months and everything is still being split down the middle, it just feels really unfair… I am paying the same as she is for a much smaller place“- I assume that your 3 kids live with their mother (your ex) in the large family home, while your ex is doing all of the parenting chores most of the time (cleaning, cooking, helping them with homework,  etc.), so you are paying for your children to live in a home that has enough space for them, and to be cared for solely by your ex most of the time?

“I have told my ex that I am going to get out there and meet new people, So I don’t see that I am doing anything wrong...(she) gives me plenty of space to be myself and the great dad I want to be“- I don’t see anything wrong with it. Your ex is.. an ex, and your new relationship does not interfere with your duties and responsibilities as a father.

anita