Thanks Anita and Helcat!

Anita – I am most definitely working on my co-dependancy issues.  I currently have a therapist and just in the last couple days found a few podcasts that have been a help.  I for sure understand that I have the co-dependacy as an anxious attachment style.  I will look into the support group you mentioned for sure.

For my childhood I could see a lack of emotional support.  My mother was smothering and did everything for us, however wasn’t the type to speak about love or supply much in the way of advice.  My father was a high tempered dad that we were scared of.   No physical abuse or mental abuse.

As far as R’s previous relationships I’m not aware of any she went back to and I don’t hold out any hope that she would leave, get help and want to come back.   I’m sure she’s going to take the path she is used to which is the easy path of finding the next man and restarting the cycle.

Thank you for the heads up on the spiritual and therapeutic retreats

I am trying to figure out exactly how much financial burden I should take on for her to get a place.  The last thing i’m going to do is put her out on the street.   Her daughter is planning to stay here, but that could also bring a new set of issues.   She has 9 months until she’s 18 and is not close to her father and just doesn’t understand her mother at this point.

Helcat – you mentioned about her possibly getting pushed to a suicidal place.  She did mention a couple nights ago that “while high” (she took 2 night time THC gummies which she never does) that she had a panic attack (which she said she hadn’t had in a very long time, nor have I ever known her to have one) and a suicidal feeling that she just didn’t want to be here anymore.