Dear Pandinha:

“I get annoyed and triggered so easily. If he tells me something, I might view as bad or degrading about my personality (which my father used to do all the time), I get annoyed and quickly withdraw from that conversation… I’m desperately looking for that initial enchantment“- reads like your experience with your father gets reactivated in the context of your communication with this guy. It often happens that strong childhood experiences get reactivated in adult contexts. You project your father into this guy.. again, a very common phenomenon.

I figure the initial enchantment was made possible by the temporary, initial absence of this projection.

anita