Hi Henry

Have you tried practicing mindfulness or meditation before? Since you seem to have some difficulties focusing on the present, it may be helpful for you to practice.

I’m sorry to hear about the difficulties with your previous relationships.

It makes sense that you would still be preoccupied in the 2nd relationship because there wasn’t a gap between partners. You didn’t process your emotions with the first break up before dating.

But you are still reminiscing about past relationships now. Do you feel like you have emotionally processed the breakups?

Some part of you feels like there may be a chance of getting back together. I’ve always found it helpful to have a rule of no backsies. It helps me to emotionally disconnect from the past.

Both times, the relationship ending hasn’t been your choice. How did that feel for you? Do you worry at all about your current relationship ending?

Is your partner anorexic, or skinny with an unhealthy weight? Or is your partner skinny but of a healthy weight? If it’s the latter, I wouldn’t recommend that she changes her eating habits and gains weight.

Have you considered purchasing lingerie for her? Would she find that acceptable? There are some kinds that enhance the bust.

I guess that weight wise, I have found that physical attraction can fluctuate in relationships. But I value the connection with my partner more than that and am attracted to my partner in other ways. It didn’t stop us from having sex or impact enjoyment. I just focused on other things.

Do you feel emotionally intimate with your partner? Do you have a strong emotional connection and attachment?

I feel like weight is a very personal and touchy subject. I’ve never broached it with my partner. We’ve always been body positive and let each other figure things out for ourselves. Weight does fluctuate over the course of a lifetime, people can be skinny, overweight and everything in between at different stages in life.

I would also say that there are people who I haven’t been attracted to and tried to date them at their request and it didn’t go very well.

Wishing you all the best! ❤️🙏