Dear Tee,

“Your guy friend told you this? Or he said it to her in their conversation (of which she sent you the screenshots)?” He said it to her.

“Their conversation happened on June 4, almost 3 months after you split up. So you can’t blame him.” Yes, but his behavior shows that maybe he was interested in her from the beginning. Maybe that is why he did the stuff he did the previous times we fought. He may have made his move now but saying that he would have wanted to get to know her if I didn’t exist means he was interested in her even while I was dating her.

“If I were you, I would speak with him. I wouldn’t respect the narcissist’s plea for secrecy, because it damages the victims. And now both of you (you and your guy friend) are her victims.” Um how is he a victim? He made the move first. He messaged her first. She just didn’t want me telling him that she told me the truth, especially after he told her not to tell me.

“So she told him off? Refused his advances? (at least in the part of the conversation that she you let you see)?” Yes, the screenshots were in continuation so less manipulation. Though the photoshopping could be a possibility, I dont have any means of confirming it.

“Well at least she paid you once. But the delay tactics is in place, as I thought.” Well I did see her bank statement and she only has around 60$ so I wouldn’t push it away as a tactic. Besides the amount she owe is too large for me to ignore, I need the money to get a new laptop for school purposes.

“Dear Paradoxy – you’re expecting respect and understanding from a narcissist? Unfortunately, that’s something you’ll never get…” I know I might never get it, but I still wanted to try. Just maybe. Just maybe she might stop being the way she is, even if it is 0.00001%.

“He is not the main person to be angry at… “ Still had the audacity to do the things he did. At least show me some respect instead of trying to do things behind my back. Now I can’t trust his ass with anything. I can’t trust him if I were to fall in love again. I can’t trust him to have my back.

Paradoxy