Hi Tommy

I don’t think you were wrong. That post made me angry. I don’t think that we are better people. You only said what I was thinking. There is more than one way to skin a cat. You told him directly the problem. I was waiting to see if he could figure out his own behaviour himself. Which way is more compassionate? Perhaps the indirect way would not get through to someone so self absorbed?

The only hope I have is that he is behaving in this way because he is in a lot of pain. It is sad when you have to hope for this to be the reason for someone’s poor behaviour. Or perhaps he had a painful life that taught him to behave like this? I do not know.

The other day I was direct with a young woman because dating is tough these days and she will need to learn quickly.

Perhaps your compassion with this man lays with his wife? I do think that you showed him empathy when you said that you know how difficult marriage is and what it is to come last in the relationship.

If you still feel that you have to leave I wish you good luck in your meditations and hope to see you again soon. 😊

Love and best wishes! ❤️🙏