Anita,

Thank you for your reply, it was painful to read but necessary and eye-opening.

It’s true that since she spends all of her free time with him and his friends, I don’t feel like I am a part of her world anymore !

When I saw her, I remember she mentioned that she went out of her way so that her boyfriend’s friends would appreciate her : one of his friends didn’t like her, so she bought him his favorite snack etc …

So yes, I think you are very right !

I remember that when she mentioned this, I felt like you said, that she did that to solidify his relationship with him. She was more caring towards his friends than me lol.

Anyway, to reply to your last sentence : I value the friendship we used to have. We talk too sporadically now, I think, to be considered close friends ?

Also, she rarely confides in me now. Just last may, we used to text at least twice a week, sharing our deepest thoughts or random things that happened in our day to day lives. We hung out as well and we always had a great time.

Now, we are less close. I don’t even know how I can be here for her because she does not seem to confide in me. The conversation is more shallow, I don’t know much about her relationship, she does not give me any updates about her life (meeting her in laws, traveling with him etc …).

I always learn this when we catch up 6 weeks after the fact.

Sorry, I am digressing.

What I am trying to say is : I feel like she has put less efforts in this friendship, as a result, I (rightfully) did the same, and now things are different.

Would the informations I added invalidate how I am feeling ?

Sometimes, I am still doubting and thinking that I am the one who’s too high maintenance ?

Sorry, there is a lot of self-doubt in this process, especially on the rare occasions where she texts me.