Dear Helcat,

I figured out that me being triggered all the time might become a little problematic in this relationship. I agree with you about meeting standards, and now I feel that needing to meet a little more is not wrong. But I am being ignorant of the fact that he is depressed because I am too anxious about being left alone, and all I think about is myself.

About discussing my needs: I tried that, and he said that he is not able to compromise (“I don’t want any human interaction at the moment”).