Hey Anita,

I cannot disagree with any and all of your comments, and thanks for the honest feedback.

I did feel like I couldnt be along for quite some time and that I relied too much on the support and affection of a partner, I like that element of having someone but I am certainly fine and dandy without it and my cup feels pretty full to be honest. I ended my Irish fling at the end of May and spent the time up until now alone and focused on my own mental health and wellbeing, I have just returned for a weeks vacation with just my and kids and it was lovely to not have to think of or rely on anyone for my own happiness. I do value your points on the reliance of needing to have someone but it certainly isnt how I feel.

I also feel its important to clarify that she has hinted and indirectly highlighted that she has feelings for me that have just never gone away.

I wouldnt in anyway consider trying to make a permanent move with her if the points you make above were not addressed and clarified, but it is really hard when I have known her for nearly 18 years and we know each other so well. Maybe i should have clarified that providing she can offer me some assurance and take some responsibility for her part in the breakup and relationship breakdown then I’d be interested to explore it??

I wouldnt make any rash decisions either way which would potentially damage the work i have done personally over the last 14 months… I want to be happy, and it really means a lot that you are so honest with the feedback – My overriding thought has been always that there are great memories and history over the last 18 years, but I wouldnt be suggesting re-kindling what we lost as I believe that man i was before is gone and I’d only be interested to learn if she wanted to be part of my future. If she isnt then my situation really hasnt changed too much…