Dear Helcat,

Exactly ! Plus, she was diagnosed 8 years ago, so depression alone can not explain her behavior.

“No matter how she justifies treating you in this way doesn’t make it right.”

Thank you for reminding me this !

“You naturally empathise with others. It’s not going to stop. But you do owe yourself empathy as well. Your pain over losing your best friend is equally important as the pain of your friends depression. Some may say that your feelings are more important because you have a responsibility to take care of yourself and your needs.”

It’s true that I tend to think that my feelings are less important, especially compared to something like depression… Honestly, I  didn’t want to put more on her plate !

But her text sparked something and I suddenly felt the need to have my feelings heard and to advocate for myself.

So I guess that I have my closure, now.

I think this type of situation is very hard to handle and both options (ie matching interest or having an open talk) are both appropriate according to the circumstances.

So I thank you again for your tremendous help ! Each of your replies reached me something 🙂