Hi all

This is a tough time.

Before i left home yesterday morning , she said she would like to do the laundry, and i said ok, expecting she will hang the clothes and take care of the whole thing. When I went home, the clothes were still in the washing machine, I stood there for a while and I thought this is so tough. This reminds me of how I did laundry for both us when we were together, while she has broken up with me, the laundry is still around and emotional it was too much for me, do I even need to take care of her laundry even after she said she wanted to break up with me? although hanging some clothes might seem an easy task.

Before she left, she said she would try to pack things this Friday, but when I am really faced with her stuffs around in the house, i feel very bad. They are all reminders of her presence in the house.

I can’t handle this and I think she needs to know, it may be pure oblivious, but I think she seems not aware of the repercussions of the break up  and she is not aware that there are something she needs to do, if she were to make the decision to break up(e.g. stay in somewhere else, move her things awasy)

I called her at the end, asked if she could get her things earlier. I understand where she is coming from, that she wanted to discuss with me on Sat and then have a final decision. She also thought if she moved things away so soon, I would feel very hurt. She said it was very tough for her to move her stuffs away as well, emotionally it is very triggering for her.

I understand her perspective, but I don’t know how to face her stuffs at home. It is hard for us either way.

it is very tough for me .